So something happens when you have kids. You and the spouse tend to have less “us” time and a lot more family time. This very normal scenario is where Tim and I have found ourselves. Tink goes to bed at a decent hour, but between working out, blogging, vegging to TV we are not getting quality couple time. We don’t live close to our parents, so the built in sitters that grandparents can so easily provide for date nights is out of the question. We don’t have any babysitters that we know well enough to trust our Tink with so paying a sitter is out of the question as well. We have friends, but they have kids too. They live this same reality of very few date opportunities.
Tim and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary with a nice dinner out. Not a big lavish trip that we would love to take. It will literally be our 2nd date out alone together since Tink was born. Dates are costly, you have to have someone you trust to leave your child with, and how much connecting do you really do? Our typical date is dinner and movie. Nice to get out, but do we really connect?
The answer is, not as much as we could. I love Tim. I miss Tim. I see him every single day, and yet I miss him. I miss us. The us that fell in love, the us who did not have our faces in our iPhones all the time, the us who spent time together having fun. The impending anniversary and general missing of my husband caused me to set out on a mission. I wanted to find a way for us to have date nights at home. I want to do things that could easily be budgeted in or better yet don’t cost a thing. The list needs to be things that can easily be done when the Tinkster goes to bed. I want to reconnect with my husband and just like I make time for work, Tink, exercise, food prep, and blogging, I have to make time for my marriage.
So I came with
stole from random websites a list of 25 stay at home date night ideas.
1. Wine and cheese night with indoor picnic
2. Trilogy movie marathon
3. 80s/90s Movie night.
4. Play “Would you rather.”
5. Make a dessert…something crazy, cookies, chocolate covered strawberries…
6. Go camping/Build a fort- Put your tent up in your yard, or your den or build a
fort of blankets, sheets, couch cushions for your kids to enjoy in the morning. Test it out
yourselves. Spend some time in there. It’s a getaway, without going anywhere.
7. Sushi & you tube. Get sushi (or whatever you want), and watch you tube videos till you roll on the
8. Make your ultimate playlists.
9. Outdoor water balloon fight.
10. Play cards/board games
11. Strip scrabble!!!- Double Word Score- other player loses two items, triple word
score? Game Over.
12. Pub night: wings and beer
13. Man’s choice
14. Build a campfire- use a fire pit if you have to. Roast marshmallows.
15. Play an Xbox Kinect game. Get up and get moving together.
16. Play the newlywed game.
17. Take personality quizzes. (funny stuff)
18. Play love match game.
19. Chip and dip night- Pick one each and one together.
20. Work a puzzle.
21. At home concert- Listen to an album from before when you knew each other.
22. Watch the first movie you ever saw together.
23. Make your bucket lists.
24. Themed movie and dinner night! Repeat this one a few times…
25. Game tournament- Keep a year long journal of the winner.
This week we our date was number one on the list. We are not huge wine drinkers, so this was something different and fun. We put couch cushions and pillows on the floor. Sat and laid around talking for several hours. We relived some funny stories we both knew or had lived together and told new stories from growing up that neither of us had heard before. No phones, no TV (other than The Black Keys station playing on iHeart radio). It was just us, drinking, eating, talking, laughing, and sharing.
Bottle of wine, stinky cheese, and fancy crackers = $22
It was worth every penny to spend a night laughing with my husband until tears came out my eye holes. FLICKA!!!!
I can honestly say it was the best night we have had as a couple in probably years. We don’t talk and connect as much as we did Friday when we actually do get to go out. I am already so thankful we have commited to doing these at home date nights. I think it gets too easy to make your marriage the lowest priority on the totem pole when life is busy. I just think that part of being healthy and happy includes making time for all of the important things. My relationship and my husband are important to me…actually more important to me 10 years after the I do’s.
Do you do something similar with your significant other? If not, I encourage you come up with your own list and make a weekly date night where you disconnect from life and reconnect with each other. Spending time with your spouse is your mission if you chose to accept it grab the button below!
Here are a couple of resources for my list.
The list idea came from “52 Stay at Home Date Night Ideas” from Go Cheap or Go Home ( I just tweaked her list to fit us)
The match game can be found and printed off The Dating Divas site.