Mission: Stay At Home Date Night

17 Jun

So something happens when you have kids.  You and the spouse tend to have less “us” time and a lot more family time.  This very normal scenario is where Tim and I have found ourselves.  Tink goes to bed at a decent hour, but between working out, blogging, vegging to TV we are not getting quality couple time.  We don’t live close to our parents, so the built in sitters that grandparents can so easily provide for date nights is out of the question.  We don’t have any babysitters that we know well enough to trust our Tink with so paying a sitter is out of the question as well.  We have friends, but they have kids too.  They live this same reality of very few date opportunities.
Tim and I will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary with a nice dinner out.  Not a big lavish trip that we would love to take.  It will literally be our 2nd date out alone together since Tink was born.  Dates are costly, you have to have someone you trust to leave your child with, and how much connecting do you really do?  Our typical date is dinner and movie.  Nice to get out, but do we really connect?
The answer is, not as much as we could.  I love Tim.  I miss Tim.  I see him every single day, and yet I miss him.  I miss us.  The us that fell in love, the us who did not have our faces in our iPhones all the time, the us who spent time together having fun.  The impending anniversary and general missing of my husband caused me to set out on a mission.  I wanted to find a way for us to have date nights at home.  I want to do things that could easily be budgeted in or better yet don’t cost a thing.  The list needs to be things that can easily be done when the Tinkster goes to bed.  I want to reconnect with my husband and just like I make time for work, Tink, exercise, food prep, and blogging, I have to make time for my marriage.
So I came with stole from random websites a list of 25 stay at home date night ideas.
1. Wine and cheese night with indoor picnic
2. Trilogy movie marathon
3. 80s/90s Movie night.
4. Play “Would you rather.”
5. Make a dessert…something crazy, cookies, chocolate covered strawberries…
6. Go camping/Build a fort- Put your tent up in your yard, or your den or build a
fort of blankets, sheets, couch cushions for your kids to enjoy in the morning. Test it out
yourselves. Spend some time in there. It’s a getaway, without going anywhere.
7. Sushi & you tube. Get sushi (or whatever you want), and watch you tube videos till you roll on the
8. Make your ultimate playlists.
9. Outdoor water balloon fight.
10. Play cards/board games
11. Strip scrabble!!!- Double Word Score- other player loses two items, triple word
score? Game Over.
12. Pub night: wings and beer
13. Man’s choice
14. Build a campfire- use a fire pit if you have to. Roast marshmallows.
15. Play an Xbox Kinect game. Get up and get moving together.
16. Play the newlywed game.
17. Take personality quizzes. (funny stuff)
18. Play love match game.
19. Chip and dip night- Pick one each and one together.
20. Work a puzzle.
21. At home concert- Listen to an album from before when you knew each other.
22. Watch the first movie you ever saw together.
23. Make your bucket lists.
24. Themed movie and dinner night! Repeat this one a few times…
25. Game tournament- Keep a year long journal of the winner.
This week we our date was number one on the list.  We are not huge wine drinkers, so this was something different and fun.  We put couch cushions and pillows on the floor.  Sat and laid around talking for several hours.  We relived some funny stories we both knew or had lived together and told new stories from growing up that neither of us had heard before.  No phones, no TV (other than The Black Keys station playing on iHeart radio).  It was just us, drinking, eating, talking, laughing, and sharing.
Bottle of wine, stinky cheese, and fancy crackers = $22
It was worth every penny to spend a night laughing with my husband until tears came out my eye holes.  FLICKA!!!!
I can honestly say it was the best night we have had as a couple in probably years.  We don’t talk and connect as much as we did Friday when we actually do get to go out.  I am already so thankful we have commited to doing these at home date nights.  I think it gets too easy to make your marriage the lowest priority on the totem pole when life is busy.  I just think that part of being healthy and happy includes making time for all of the important things.  My relationship and my husband are important to me…actually more important to me 10 years after the I do’s.
Do you do something similar with your significant other?  If not, I encourage you come up with your own list and make a weekly date night where you disconnect from life and reconnect with each other.  Spending time with your spouse is your mission if you chose to accept it grab the button below!

Here are a couple of resources for my list.

The list idea came from “52 Stay at Home Date Night Ideas” from Go Cheap or Go Home ( I just tweaked her list to fit us)

The match game can be found and printed off The Dating Divas site.

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15 Responses to “Mission: Stay At Home Date Night”

  1. Sarah-Jane June 17, 2013 at 6:27 am #

    I think it’s so cute what you’re doing, your such a sweet couple. It’s nice to have someone that you truly enjoy being with. If you wish to have a holiday and come to Malta, I would totally babysit you cute girl :). I have coordinated a summer school for 5 years and babysit all of my 6 nieces and nephews so I got plenty of experience.

  2. Samantha @ 24to30 June 17, 2013 at 7:17 am #

    I LOVE this so much! I was just telling my husband last night that we need to have more fun together. Totally doing this.

  3. Amber S. June 17, 2013 at 8:53 am #

    Love this! B and I don’t get to spend much quality time together either. iPhones don’t help that cause :/ Looks like y’all had an awesome date night, fancy crackers and all :)

  4. Jodeen30 June 17, 2013 at 11:48 am #

    My husband and I are celebrating our 10 year anniversary in January! I hear ya on trying to squeeze in time for each other-our 2 year old is a night owl and thinks that 10:30 is a good time to start thinking about bedtime. We are trying to convince him that 9:00 is better lol! Thanks for the ideas!

  5. Katie @ KatieEnPursuit June 17, 2013 at 11:57 am #

    Looks like a fab date night & just proof you don’t have to break the bank to enjoy a fun evening! Some of our best ones involve cooking dinner & Scrabble. Yes, we’re wild & crazy! Love love love me some cheese & crackers too!

  6. Melanie @ 4Kottez June 17, 2013 at 12:14 pm #

    What a great idea. I loved seeing your guys smiling faces.

  7. Samantha June 17, 2013 at 1:29 pm #

    So glad you two were able to have some “you time”! Feels great to reconnect!! :)

  8. Denise @ Go Cheap or Go Home June 17, 2013 at 1:47 pm #

    This is so great!!! SO glad to see someone is actually USING my list!! Hooray!!! I am hosting a Pinterest challenge around this coming very soon and asking a couple of bloggers to help promote. Please let me know if you are interested . Thanks!

  9. Tiffany June 17, 2013 at 7:08 pm #

    I smiled the entire time reading this post! I love what you guys are doing and I love that you are sharing it with us!

  10. Kim @ BusyBod June 17, 2013 at 7:17 pm #

    Losing the “us” time is my biggest fear about having children. We’re far from family too and just too paranoid for babysitters. It’s so encouraging to hear how you two are overcoming that challenge. I love love love your plan. Staying in is always cheaper plus I feel like you usually focus more on each other. Good luck!

  11. Nicole June 17, 2013 at 8:10 pm #

    I love that you are doing a date night! Every couple needs a little “catch up” time!

  12. Amy @ The Diary of a Fat Mommy June 18, 2013 at 1:19 am #

    You are absolutely right…Such a great idea! I think I need to start doing this!!! Thanks for the suggestions :)

  13. Jasmine Wood June 18, 2013 at 7:53 am #

    Looks like fun! Something my husband and I have started doing is swapping date nights with other friends who have kids. We watch their kids one night so they can go out on a date, and then they return the favor. It’s a win-win because we don’t have to pay for a babysitter, and the kids have friends to play with so it is easier on the couple who has to babysit!! Happy 10th Anniversary!!

  14. Rachel Steck June 18, 2013 at 2:22 pm #

    This is so true; I’m gonna try out one of your ideas…..



  15. Ashley June 18, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

    Great idea! R and I have a mason jar with popsicle sticks in it. On each popsicle stick something is written (movie of her choice, bike ride, blanket fort in the living room, etc). Occasionally (I say that because he travels a lot for work) we pull a popsicle stick out of the jar and that’s our date. It’s a lot of fun!!

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